Anyone who reads this as a parent, please dont under estimate the influence you have over your childrens behavior for the rest of their life. When I was a kid of only 6 til I got to be 18 and moved out of the house I got told, what you want does not matter, that is stupid, you dont know anything, you just think your important, if it was not for you I would have done other things in my life but it is my responsibility to provide you a home. Now how would you like to have come up with those comments from parents who got married when they were 17 and 14. Never went to school and just worked in a factory until they retired? Not taking anything away from them, because they are my parents and I love them, but who was really the stupid ones in this situation? Now to this day at age 55, Im still stupid, What I wanted in life is not important, and a new one - you think your so smart just because you have been to College and your a Plant Manager. When I get around them I see how they turn negative and bitter. Somewhere down the road of life I have done something that they think I should not have done or I just dont show them appreciation like I should. Yes I rebelled against this type of treatment when I was coming up, who would not, but the way this influenced me has still profound affects today at age 55.
When I first got married I did not know how to show affection to Cinda because for 19 years I had put up the steel guard to protect myself and my feelings. When anyone who disagree with me, up went that wall and I would shut down. Now try being a newlywed and establishing a home with a wonderful wife and she gets that treatment. It would happen before I knew it and it took her love and years of it to help me through this, but I thank God for her.
At work I would bust my ass to try to please the management and as usual when they would disagree with me or show disappointment I would fly all to hell and take it personal. I had to work through that also.
My point is, please be careful what you say or do when you have those children. God gives us the promise that for everything bad that happens to us, He can take it and make something positive out of it if we let Him. This past month at my son's wedding he gave me a card and on this card it said, "if Im half as good a husband to Sharon as you were a dad to me then everything will be great in our life". When I read that card I just busted into tears and almost have now typing this blog. As a result of my raising I gave my children an opinion, I gave them the option to make mistakes and not call them stupid but stand behind them and help them. I did everything I could to spend time with them at ball games, camps, band concerts, cheerleading practice and what ever else they decide to do. I told them both to dream and follow those dreams. Who knows, you might be the next famous person but you would never know if you dont give it shot. At the same time I had rules and guidelines and they followed those also.
Just love your kids and even when they are 55 still love and support them and never make them feel like they owe it you. That card was all the payment I needed for all those year and pleasure my children have given me. They are truely a blessing.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
The Bachelor's Party Again
Well, I hit the wrong damn key and dont know how to delete it, but lets try this again. We went to Pawleys Island for Jason's Bachelor Party weekend. Man was it fun and it sure was nice to get to hang out there. About 12 of his buddy's came down for it and Matt, Os, Steve, Jay, Courtney, Fred, and Ned from Pawleys particpated also. What ment the most to me was #1, being the Best Man in the wedding so I got to go, #2, my son feels totally comfortable with me being around his friends in that type of atmosphere, #3, my buds from Pawleys wanting to particpate in it as well. Matt brought over 6 bottles of various liquors for all of us and even spent 2 nights in the condo on the sofa bed. Now it is nice having friends like that !!!! As usual we drank to much and did not sleep enough, but hell it is Pawleys Island and my son only gets married once (at least on my ticket). You would never find anything like that up here in Mooresville, NC. We get to go back during the week of July 4th and I am so ready for that. All of the guys who came down from Charlotte and Atlanta said to me, "NOW I KNOW WHY YOU TALK SO MUCH ABOUT PAWLEYS ISLAND & THE PEOPLE HERE" they fell in love with it just as I have. They were not as impressed with Easy Street as I had built it up but thats because there was no young girls hanging out there. They liked the bar and the especially Heather, but they wanted more female action and it is not like it was in the old days. We went to the Hot Fish Club and that place was full of their desires. At my age 6 beers and a 30 year old would put me back in MUSC @ Charleston again. Be as usual all things had to come to an end and Im back here wasting my days away and bored out of my freaking mind. Ok lets dont spoil the blog with all that BS.
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